Posted by: Sarah Giles | 26 August 2008

Getting what you want

Just because I am an advocate of the simple lifestyle, I don’t think it is always wrong to want more things. In my opinion, the ‘rightness’ just depends on your choice of things and what you plan to do with them.

Some things I currently want:

  • to be eleven-stone-nothing
  • to write a book and have it published
  • to pay off the mortgage so Dave can work from home too
  • a VW campervan (run on biofuel, of course)

I recently read How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be by Jack Canfield. As a motivational tool, it’s useful, though as a guiding philosophy to live your life by it falls short. There’s a notable absence of discussion about what ideas God might have on the subject of our goals and ambitions and what we do to reach them. Since I care quite a lot about his thoughts on the subject, I am not enamoured of Mr Canfield’s idea that ‘If you want something enough, the universe will send it your way’ (I paraphrase him, but that’s the gist). That idea just doesn’t tie up with my theology, in which a loving God both gives and witholds things in our best interests.

I have picked out a few of the useful bits of the book, though, and am putting them into practice. I’ve made an inspiration board with pictures and targets and well, inspiration, which is on the wall above the computer. I haven’t started carrying index cards with my goals written on them, mainly because I only leave the house two or three times a week, and spend almost all my waking hours sat in this very chair, so it hardly seems necessary. And, truth be told, I think that sort of behaviour is, well, a bit odd.

I’ve also recently listened to this talk about contentment by Graham Tomlin, which tied in with the book in an interesting way. I think the main point he makes is that contentment is relative: the more stuff you have, the more you want and the less fulfilling each new acquisition becomes. There was also some talk about the Trinity in there as well, but I’m afraid that part washed over me a bit, even on the second listen, because I was mulitasking and paying the car tax or something dull like that. Well worth a listen though.

So. How am I doing with my goals? Well, I’ve lost 10 lbs so far. I have an outline for my book, though that’s about as far as it’s got, because work that earns me actual money keeps getting in the way, and I’m not about to start turning that down. I’d originally set a target of next Easter to get it published, but fear that was hopelessly optimistic. Paying off the mortgage is going well, and we’re overpaying each month, so when the next statement arrives (in February) it should be good news.


Responses

  1. I wrote a long response, but I hit a key by accident and the computer ate it. What it boiled down to was:

    I don’t really see how wanting to accumulate more possessions or money is justifiable, if one already has more than enough to live comfortably on. I’m not saying I don’t do this, I’m just saying.

    I don’t have any long term goals. I don’t think I have the discipline to ever achieve any that I might set. I find the concept of ‘getting what you want’ quite alien, because, I think, I find a lot of things quite difficult and I can’t really say that I have often got what I wanted with much ease.

    I may be wrong, but I’ve always seen you as the sort of person who does get what she wants, most of the time. I admire your self discipline and goal-setting mentality, but I think you have to be a particular kind of person to live in this way.

    Sorry if this sounds really grumpy! It’s not meant to be a criticism; I think I’m just more negative about these things than you are!

  2. I think what you say is interesting.

    First, I would say that of the four things I mentioned, only one (the campervan) is a possession, and although it is a luxury item, I’d have it instead of taking flights to go on holiday, as a green alternative. I’ve also toyed with the idea of selling the house (and using the money to fund something worthwhile), and permanently living in a campervan. The idea of paying off the mortgage early is also to have more time and money available to serve God, perhaps by renting out the house while we go on missions, etc.

    My second point is that possessions over and above what is necessary or essential are not wrong. It’s our attitude towards them that is right or wrong. If we view them as a resource to be used to serve God, and are happy that he can give and remove them as he sees fit, then I think that’s quite a healthy thing. For example, people with cars can provide lifts to those who need them. I have a number of friends (all a few years older than us), who have some useful tools that they willingly make available to others in the church, and I know they view their possessions as gifts to be shared, and the church benefits from their attitude.

    I’m not in favour of acquiring stuff for the sake of it, but I don’t believe we’re all called to live in a kind of puritan austerity either. (That’s not to say I don’t fancy trying out the puritan austerity thing for a few months. The simplicity appeals to me.)

    In a sort-of-similar vein, I have taken to disposing of surplus possessions (recently a table, a lawnmower, garden chairs, bricks, jars, and more) on Freecycle, ensuring they are used by someone who needs them. In the same period I have bought a Wii and Wii Fit to help me lose weight, because (a) it’s cheaper than joining a gym or going swimming, once you factor in the necessary bus fare to the pool, and (b) it’s fun, and therefor stick-at-able. I like the image I read about somewhere where you let possessions flow into and out of your life, not holding on to any of them too tightly, trusting God to provide what you need.

    What do you think? : )

  3. I think you’re right.

    I did realise that only one of the things you talked about was a posession, which is why I also talked about setting goals.

    I think my problem is that the concept of planning something long-term and then achieving it is alien to me and I am quite jealous of your ability to do, and be able to do, this. I just drift along, hoping for the best, I don’t think about what I want, because I don’t actually know. Nor do I know what God wants me to do, so I will just keep plodding on. This is obviously not the right attitude to take, but it, to me, is realistic.

    Maybe I’m just lazy. I suspect so. I shouldn’t write things when I’m feeling grumpy and tired.


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